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“ALMOST ALWAYS IT WILL BE A SELFISH SPOUSE WHO ACCUSES HIS OR HER PARTNER OF SELFISHNESS”

NOT OURS TO JUDGE

by Fr Leo J. Trese

“Two women were chatting as they stood in line at the checkout counter. ‘The thing I can’t stand about Grace,’ one woman said, ‘is the way she’s always ctiticising other people, always seeing their faults.’ The lady made the remark with a perfectly straight face. She was quite oblivious to the fact that she herself was doing what she pretended to abhor.

THE LORD’S TREATMENT OF THE WOMAN CAUGHT IN THE ACT OF ADULTERY

One of the most touching incidents in our Lord’s life surely was His treatment of the woman caught in the act of adultery. Frightened and shamed, she was dragged before Jesus by the Scribes and Pharisees as He sat teaching in the Temple courtyard. The woman’s accusers posed what they thought was an inescapable dilemma to Jesus: should the woman be stoned to death as the Law of Moses prescribed?

If Jesus said, ‘No, let her go,’ He would convict Himself of contempt for the Law, held sacred by the Jews. If He said, ‘Yes, stone her,’ His reputation of compassion for sinners would be destroyed. ‘What dost thou say?’ the Pharisees urged.

CASTING THE FIRST STONE

Seeming to ignore their question, Jesus leaned over and wrote in the dust with His finger. What He wrote has remained a secret for twenty centuries. Were His markings an aimless tracing, or did He begin to spell out the sins of the men who stood before Him? In any event, as He continued to write He directed the accusers, ‘Let him who is without sin among you be the first to cast a stone at her.’

One by one they slunk away until the pitiable woman stood alone before Jesus. Only then did He look up with merciful eyes to say, ‘Go thy way, and from now on sin no more.’

Christ’s admonition, ‘Let him who is without sin among you be the first to cast a stone,’ should be graven deeply in the heart of each of us. A saint will weep for sinners and pray for sinners, but it takes someone much less than a saint to condemn a sinner.

Almost always it will be a selfish spouse who accuses his or her partner of selfishness. It will be a self-seeker who censures a fellow employee for toadying to the boss. There will be a basic streak of covetousness in the person who imputes dishonesty to another. It will be a fundamentally proud or ambitious person who points to pride or ambition in his neighbour.

FACING OUR HIDDEN WEAKNESSES SQUARELY

Psychologists have a name for this habit of fault-finding or of criticising others. They call it ‘projection’. It is a defence mechanism by which we try to still our uneasiness concerning our own unacknowledged and perhaps unrecognised weaknesses. Subconsciously we try to get rid of our unworthy feelings and desires by projecting them onto someone else. For example, the self-righteous woman who shows most scorn for a prostitute or an unwed mother, is trying desperately to keep the lid on her own suppressed sexual urges.

Projection is a very unhealthy form of personality adjustment. It would be much more salutary to drag our hidden weaknesses out into the daylight and to face them squarely.

We ARE human. We possess all the defects to which fallen human nature is subject. There is no sin in the book of which we are not essentially capable. If we have not erred grievously, it is no great credit to ourselves. It is God’s grace which has won our victories for us, plus perhaps the good fortune of a truly Christian upbringing and a protected environment – which themselves ate gifts of God.

LIVING A CHRISTLIKE LIFE

This matter of forbearance toward others, of patience with their mistakes and compassion for their sins, is enormously important for the living of a Christlike life. In fact, there IS no genuine Christian life without it.

Probably few of us ever will become totally perfect in our effort to leave all judgment to God. There will be moments of resentment or of pique when we forget our resolve. However, such moments will be few if, as accusatory words rise to our lips, we summon up the vision of Jesus writing in the sand and hear the challenge of His invitation, ‘Let him who is without sin among you be the first to cast a stone.'”

 

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TODAY’S RESPONSORIAL PSALM (PSALM 102)

R. The Lord is compassion and love.

1. My soul, give thanks to the Lord,
all my being, bless his holy name.
My soul, give thanks to the Lord
and never forget all his blessings. (R.)

2. It is he who forgives all your guilt,
who heals every one of your ills,
who redeems your life from the grave,
who crowns you with love and compassion. (R.)

3. The Lord is compassion and love,
slow to anger and rich in mercy.
His wrath will come to an end;
he will not be angry for ever. (R.)

4. He does not treat us according to our sins
nor repay us according to our faults.
For as the heavens are high above the earth
so strong is his love for those who fear him. (R.)

ALLELUIA

Alleluia, alleluia!
I am the light of the world, says the Lord,
anyone who follows me
will have the light of life.
Alleluia!

 

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ONE QUESTION OF THE EXAMINATION OF CONSCIENCE: HAVE I EXERCISED VIGILANCE OVER WHAT MY CHILDREN WATCH ON TV?

One question for parents, grandparents, aunties and uncles in the examination of conscience before confession reads: “Have I failed to exercise vigilance over what my children read, see on television or on the internet?” What are the possible effects of watching violent and unsuitable material? Is the certification of films really to be trusted? – – – – – – – – – –

‘I FOUND THE LEVEL OF VIOLENCE UNWATCHABLE’

“We often have TV dinners in my house and last night I sat down with one of my teenage sons to watch a film that he clearly thought I was going to enjoy as much as I did. It was called ‘Avengers Assemble’ and it is rated PG-13. As super-hero movies go, it was high quality – full of A-list actors, and of course the special effects were stunning with a budget of $220 million. But most of it showed intense violence interspersed with about 15 minutes of either talking about violence about to happen, or recovering from violence. It was a very, very violent film. Actress Scarlett Johansson said she spent months training for the role by fighting stuntmen. ‘It’s crazy – I do nothing but fight all the time,’ she reported. ‘Avengers Assemble’ is not alone. ‘The Dark Knight’ series also waltzed through the PG-13 filter, as did ‘The Hunger Games’. I wondered, do teens really need to see for entertainment entire cities destroyed in minutes by giant machines or a nuclear bomb blowing up an alien city? Unlike the millions worldwide who helped this production earn more than a thousand million dollars to date, I didn’t see it through to the end. ‘Calm down mum,’ my son laughed as I left the room, ‘it’s only a film.’ Well, I found the level of violence offensive and unwatchable. And I wondered: Does violence in the media affect the well-being of individuals and society? And is a culture that inundates itself with media violence a significantly more violent culture than one in which violence is rare in the media?

CREATIVELY LAZY FILMS

Timothy M. Gray, the editor in chief of ‘Variety’, questioned film violence in his January 2013 edition. ‘It’s the pervasiveness we should be concerned with,’ he said, ‘for you can see 28 explosions that kill dozens of people in seven minutes of movie trailers.’ He felt that you couldn’t actually count the acts of murder and mayhem, 24/7 on 500 TV channels. Gray’s editorial called for Hollywood to act. ‘When asked about violent or demeaning content, some in Hollywood shrug, ‘It’s what the public wants,” he said, ‘but there’s a fine line between catering to the public wants and pandering to their basest instincts.’ In the same issue, writer Callie Khouri pointed out that violent scripts make easy money but are ‘creatively lazy’. She said that, ‘writing a story that doesn’t have a gun or doesn’t have a murder or doesn’t have a violent incident in it is a whole lot more difficult than writing a story that does.’ Gray felt that after the terror attacks of 9/11, he expected to see greater sensitivity to mass killings in action films, yet in the most recent Batman film, ‘The Dark Knight Rises’, the Williamsburg, Manhattan and Brooklyn bridges are blown up, killing thousands, against a backdrop where the World Trade Center used to be. Gray felt if this is what passes for entertainment, if our memories are so short and our sensitivities so blunted, something is broken. I agree with him.

JOLTING AUDIENCES

In Quentin Tarantino’s films, the violence, torture and bloodletting sit side by side with wisecracking dialogue and moments of slapstick. His latest, ‘Django Unchained’, features whippings, brutal wrestling matches and one scene in which dogs rip a slave to pieces. In many cinemas, audiences are laughing at scenes of hanging and shootings in the genitals. The challenge now for film-makers is to jolt audiences who’ve already seen death portrayed so many times on screen before. Tarantino deflected a question about film violence linked to real life massacres earlier on this year saying, ‘I think it’s disrespectful to the people who died to talk about movies; obviously, the issue is gun control and mental health.’ I would exclude from concern those films which do not focus on violence as entertainment, but on highlighting the horror of violence. The Stephen Spielberg films, ‘Saving Private Ryan’, ‘Schindler’s List’ and ‘Lincoln’ portray the evil of war and the fortitude to tackle it. Kathryn Bigelow assesses the psychological cost of global conflicts in ‘The Hurt Locker’ and ‘Zero Dark Thirty’. But more often, casual detachment about death is a staple of mainstream cinema.

LINK WITH AGGRESSION

In the era of computer games like ‘Call of Duty’ and ‘Assasin’s Creed’, death isn’t taken very seriously here either. The debate over the effects of violence in the media really hotted up last year when a survey carried out by Australia’s Interactive Games and Entertainment Association found that large numbers of children are spending many hours a week playing violent video games. ‘When children are constantly exposed to violent media it raises the risk that they will choose to use aggression themselves when put in a conflict situation,’ commented Barbara Biggins, CEO of the Australian Council on Children and the Media. An earlier report by the International Society for Research on Aggression on the effects of exposure to media violence found that frequent exposure to media violence increased the relative risk of aggression. ‘Youth can now download, view, play, and listen to violent material any time of day or night, often from the privacy of their own rooms, and with little supervision from their parents,’ the report warned. Some people reject the idea that violence in the media will affect behaviour, but the report pointed out that when it comes to content that is not violent it is accepted that the media will influence what people do, as is evident from the existence of the multibillion dollar advertising industry. Violence in video games is more of a problem than in other forms of media, due to its interactive nature. Playing video games involves practice, repetition and being rewarded for numerous acts of violence, which may intensify the learning. The issue is whether watching violent movies and shows or interactively engaging in violent games in a virtual world increases the odds that people may engage in aggressive behaviour in a variety of forms, both in the short term and in the long term.

REAL-LIFE VIOLENCE

A number of studies have found that exposure to media violence not only increases aggressive behaviour, but also aggressive thoughts, feelings, psychological arousal, and decreases social skills. The aggression may not be immediate or severe, such as shooting someone; it can take a variety of forms, such as a child being more defiant and disrespectful. Violent images can also serve as a trigger for aggressive thoughts and feelings already stored in the brain. Violence in films, TV, or video games also leads to the desensitization of the process of moral evaluation of behaviour by an individual.

During the US-led war on Iraq in 2003, media outlets provided live, real-time coverage of battle for the first time in history. Network reporters were ’embedded’ with troops – transmitting battle footage straight into homes – and viewers felt like they were taking part in the war. Studies show regular exposure to traumatic events through television and film can increase stress and depression. The impact of seeing TV violence can even affect the way people interact with each other in society. ‘People overexposed to horrendous violence and death can reach a point of saturation similar to post-traumatic stress syndrome,’ says Ronald Barrett, psychology professor at Loyola Marymount University; ‘People may shut down and not be able to have normal feelings.’ In addition, the media presentation can blur normal feelings of compassion. The compassion meter runs differently depending on who is dying. When the person being killed is labelled as the enemy then very often there is little compassion. When one of our own soldiers is killed, it is framed as being more meaningful. In the ten years since the Iraq War it is now commonplace to see live war footage and other violent episodes.’

THE ‘ADMIRABLE’ SOLUTION

Viewers should not rely on the media to digest information for them, according to Sr Elizabeth Thoman, a member of the Congregation of Humility of Mary, and founder of Los Angeles Center for Media Literacy. She feels we should be asking, ‘How does this media coverage get to us? Is it being sponsored by someone? Is somebody making money from this? Are certain images being selected?’ She adds that, ‘even if we look at the same picture,we see it differently depending on what we bring to it.’ We should be asking, do we solve our problems with bigger bombs and faster planes? It would be lamentable if our young people are learning that violence is the solution to conflict. And not only is it ‘the solution’, it’s the admirable solution. If our heroes resort to violence to fix our problems then why don’t we? What a pity that you won’t find Pax Christi work on peace education in the mainstream media, or projects on non-violent meditation in conflict situations, such as in Palestine.

Extreme real-life violence does not need to be in a war context. In February, the video of a taxi driver being dragged to his death after being handcuffed to a police vehicle in South Africa went viral around the world. It became a worldwide symbol of police brutality in the country. Mido Macia was only 27-years-old when he died after a minor altercation with policemen escalated. The recording of the incident by horrified onlookers who beseeched the police to stop their abuse will at least mean there is evidence for securing justice. Over recent years mobile phone footage of attacks on indigenous peoples’ protests in Peru have reached the West, revealing the violence used against people trying to save their land from destruction by Western mining companies. And on alternative media such as Twitter and Facebook you will find inspiring stories about peacemaking that simply don’t appear in the mainstream.

CALL TO BE PEACEMAKERS

As followers of Jesus, who completely rejected violence and called on us to be peacemakers, we should become more alert to violent media and its effects on us all. We must not ignore the fact that the media consumption, especially in children and teens, is a strong predictor of both perceptions of the world and behavioural responses to crises. We must make smart decisions as parents, activists, and consumers… Immersion into a culture of constant violence is bad for anyone, and especially so for children.”

– This article by Ellen Teague, entitled “School of Violence” was published in “Messenger of Saint Anthony”, issue May 2013. For subscriptions, please contact: Messenger of Saint Anthony, basilica del Santo, via Orto Botanico 11, 35123 Padua, Italy

 

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O MY SOUL, BLESS GOD THE FATHER (HYMN)

O my soul, bless God the Father;
all within me bless his name:
bless the Father, and forget not
all his mercies to proclaim,
who forgiveth thy transgressions,
thy diseases all who heals;
who redeems thee from destruction,
who with thee so kindly deals.

Far as east from west is distant,
he hath put away our sin;
like the pity of a father
hath the Lord’s compassion been.
As it was without beginning,
so it lasts without an end;
to their children’s children ever
shall his righteousness extend.
– Hymns ancient and modern

 

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GOD’S HEART CALLS TO OUR HEARTS TO MAKE OURSELVES A GIFT OF UNBOUNDED LOVE

“THE VERY CORE OF CHRISTIANITY IS EXPRESSED IN THE HEART OF JESUS”

BY POPE BENEDICT XVI

“The Lord has drawn us to his heart – Suscepit nos Dominus in sinum et cor suum.” God’s heart, as the expression of his will, is spoken of twenty-six times in the Old Testament. Before God’s heart men and women stand judged… Even so, he never abandons Israel to the power of its enemies, because “my heart” – the Creator of the universe observes – “recoils within me, my compassion grows warm and tender”.

The heart of God burns with compassion! …[With] the Sacred Heart of Jesus the Church presents us this mystery for our contemplation: the mystery of the heart of a God who feels compassion and who bestows all his love upon humanity. A mysterious love, which in the texts of the New Testament is revealed to us as God’s boundless and passionate love for mankind.

God does not lose heart in the face of ingratitude or rejection by the people he has chosen; rather, with infinite mercy he sends his only-begotten Son into the world to take upon himself the fate of a shattered love, so that by defeating the power of evil and death he could restore to human beings enslaved by sin their dignity as sons and daughters. But this took place at great cost – the only-begotten Son of the Father was sacrificed on the cross… Together let us pause to contemplate the pierced heart of the Crucified One… The very core of Christianity is expressed in the heart of Jesus; in Christ the revolutionary “newness” of the Gospel is completely revealed and given to us: the Lord that saves us and even now makes us live in the eternity of God. As the Evangelist John writes: “God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life” (3:16). God’s heart calls to our hearts, inviting us to come out of ourselves, to forsake our human certainties, to trust in him and, by following his example, to make ourselves a gift of unbounded love.

 

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TODAY’S RESPONSORIAL PSALM (PSALM 144)

R. The Lord is kind and full of compassion.

1. The Lord is kind and full of compassion,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
How good is the Lord to all,
compassionate to all his creatures. (R.)

2. The Lord is faithful in all his words
and loving in all his deeds.
The Lord supports all who fall
and raises all who are bowed down. (R.)

3. The Lord is just in all his ways
and loving in all his deeds.
He is close to all who call him,
who call on him from their hearts. (R.)

ACCLAMATION

God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son; everyone who believes in him has eternal life.

 

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TODAY’S RESPONSORIAL PSALM (PSALM 78)

R. Do not treat us according to our sins, O Lord.

1. Do not hold the guilt of our fathers against us.
Let your compassion hasten to meet us
for we are in the depths of distress. (R.)

2. O God our saviour, come to our help,
come for the sake of the glory of your name.
O Lord our God, forgive us our sins;
rescue us for the sake of your name.

3. Let the groans of the prisoners come before you;
let your strong arm reprieve those condemned to die.
But we, your people, the flock of your pasture,
will give you thanks for ever and ever.
We will tell your praise from age to age. (R.)

ACCLAMATION

The seed is the word of God, Christ the sower; whoever finds this seed will remain for ever.

 
 

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TODAY’S RESPONSORIAL PSALM (PSALM 137)

R. On the day I called, you answered me, O Lord.

1. I thank you, Lord, with all my heart,
you have heard the words of my mouth.
Before the angels I will bless you.
I will adore before your holy temple. (R.)

2. I thank you for your faithfulness and love
which excel all we ever knew of you.
On the day I called, you answered;
you increased the strength of my soul. (R.)

3. You stretch out your hand and save me,
your hand will do all things for me.
Your love, O Lord, is eternal,
discard not the work of your hands. (R.)

ACCLAMATION

Now, now – it is the Lord who speaks –
come back to me with all your heart,
for I am all tenderness and compassion.

 
 

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“LET YOUR LIGHT DAWN, YOUR SALVATION BE SWIFT”

LORD, HAVE MERCY ON US AND ON THE WHOLE WORLD.

By Your noble and glorious Blood,
offered unceasingly to please God who sent You,
may the dangers be lifted from me, the condemned,
may my transgressions be forgiven,
may my vices be pardoned,
may my shamelessness be forgotten,
may my sentence be commuted,
may the worms shrivel,
may the wailing stop,
and the gnashing of teeth fall silent.
Let the laments lessen and tears dry.
Let mourning end and darkness be banished.
May the vengeful fire be stamped out
and torments of every kind be exiled.

May you who grant life to all be compassionate now.
Let Your light dawn, Your salvation be swift,
Your help come in time, and the hour of Your arrival be at hand.
May the dew of Your mercy quench the parched field
where my bones have fallen into the pit of death.
Prepare the earth for the day of light
and let the soil bloom and bring forth fruit,
heavenly cup of life-giving Blood,
ever sacrificed, never running dry
all for the salvation and life of the souls in eternal rest.

And though my body die in sin,
with Your grace and compassion,
may I be strengthened in You, cleansed of sin
through You, and renewed by You with life everlasting,
and at the resurrection of the righteous
be deemed worthy of Your Father’s blessing.
– St Gregory of Narek, 11th century

 
 

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CAST YOUR BURDEN ON THE LORD (HYMN)

Cast your burden on the Lord,
only lean upon his word;
you will soon have cause to bless
his eternal faithfulness.

He sustains you by his hand,
he enables you to stand;
those whom Jesus once has loved
from his grace are never moved.

Human counsels come to naught;
that shall stand which God has wrought;
his compassion, love, and power
are the same forevermore.

Jesus, Guardian of your flock,
be yourself our constant rock;
make us, by your powerful hand,
strong as Zion’s mountain stand.

 
 

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